how to get out of your bag 101 (things i do when i'm in my bag)
generic but necessary gentle reminders:
clean your space. a cleaner space always naturally makes me feel better, even if it only provides me with temporary relief.
meditate and practice mindfulness. (i’m not going to front like i do this often, but when i do, i calculate my breaths and thank god for even existing.in these moments, i am reminded of the things that do and do not matter in this life).*a good app for meditation is: stop, think, & breathe*
read a good book/listen to some poetry. distract yourself and immerse in a new world for a little bit.
listen to some good music. there are alway some tunes that can and will remind you that you are indeed that bitch. conceited by remy ma does it for me.
take a temporary social media break, and even if it’s only for a few hours, life can be peaceful when you aren’t worrying about what other people are doing.
drink some tea! tea is very calming. ginger tea particularly is heavenly. try it.
write down some goals and instead of saying “i’ll do that later” just do it now if you have the means to. i’ve been actively working on this mindset because the future is not promised, who knows what might happen. all we have is now.
solitude is addictive, but isolation can also be dangerous when you’re in your bag. find the people you love and spend some time with them even if you can only share their company via facetime.
find a podcast. podcasts will change your life. they often remind me that i haven’t necessarily been dealt a bad hand in life. sometimes shit just happens. podcasts also remind me that even though i often feel alone, i am never alone. there are people who have been through the exact same things that i have, and life really does get better...if you let it. i listen to The Slumfower (@theslumflower on twitter) for life lessons, advice, and positive affirmations. i highly recommend her to the women who read my blog.
10. stop thinking about the people who hurt you. chances are, they still suck. forgive and never accept that same energy again. of course this is much easier said than done, but forgiveness gets easier with time. i know that it only takes me one quick sad memory to get me back in my bag, but i'm working on it.
***last but not least, get out of BED. i’m guilty of spending entire days in bed. this is an incredibly unhealthy habit. spending your whole day in bed is not self-care no matter what you tell yourself, it's destructive laziness. so seriously get out of bed. do something productive, you’ll be happier.***